Set a Date – Artist and Support

Set a Date – Artist and Support

Set A Date – Artistic and Romantical!
Set yourself some time just for you! Your Artist date, at LEAST once a month.
NO one else,…just YOU!
You don’t have to do anything that takes a lot of time, maybe a lunch break or a quick stop.
  • Stop by the bookstore (yes,..there are a few around!) Look at magazines and books you would not normally look at,…
  • Go to a museum
  • Go to an art gallery or art street fair
  • Go for a walk in nature
  • Stop by that quaint little shop you’ve been dying to check out
Set some time for those most important in your life, your significant other, your child, your best friend, your support system. Your support date, at LEAST once a month, significant other, at LEAST once a week.
You cannot keep your relationships with the people in your life that mean the most to you if you are NOT taking and making time for them!
Simple, QUALITY time means SO much! You don’t have to spend a lot of money, have to spend something worth MUCH more,…TIME,…
  • You can go play on a playground
  • Have a picnic
  • Walk in the rain
  • Pitch a tent in the backyard and stare at the stars
  • Go on a scavenger hunt
  • Play, silly,..laugh!
DO NOT talk about money,…your jobs,..your kids,…anything that you discuss on regular basis.
DO talk about your dreams,…your goals,…your favourite whatever,…your least favourite whatever,…
These may seem like something irrelevant, inconsequential, unimportant.
TRUST me this is one of the most significant additions to your life that you will not regret!
Start living your Creative Adventurous Life,…and take those you love along with you!
Find and Define Your Crazy – What’s holding you back?

Find and Define Your Crazy – What’s holding you back?

What’s holding you back? 

Finding and defining your ‘Crazy’, that one thing (or in my case MANY things!)
that is holding you back from creating anything in this world can be difficult to pin-point.
Most of us don’t want to know our TRUE selves, whats-holding-you-back
we’re happy blissfully floating through life thinking
‘This is how things are, this is how things have always been, this is how things will always be.’
NOT true!
Not true AT ALL my friends! 
It takes some REAL soul searching, sometimes LOTS of hard work, maybe even breaking through some old walls that you’ve put up years ago. But, it CAN be done!  It’s not always pretty, you’ll find things that you ‘stashed’ away in those deep dark places way far away from the light.
Way down deep where you thought no-one would ever find them again. These things could be anything from something someone told you once about how you can’t sing (so you only sing to yourself in the shower! 🙂 ), to something deeper and darker. 
It’s not always pretty, you’ll find things that you ‘stashed’ away in those deep dark places way far away from the light.
Way down deep where you thought no-one would ever find them again.
These things could be anything from something someone told you once about how you can’t sing (so you only sing to yourself in the shower! 🙂 ), to something deeper and darker. 
Now, before we go any farther, please, I want you to understand something.
I am NOT a psychologist, psychotherapist, or any such psycho-anything (I’m just psycho! At least according to my husband I am!).
I am NOT making light of any condition that requires the treatment from these professionals.
I completely believe that having someone to talk to who can help you come to terms with things in your life and in your head is sometimes an absolute necessity.
Life throws some horrible things at us and having someone help us through those experiences is a God-send!
If you feel it necessary, please seek help from these professionals.
 What’s stopping you from creating?
 THAT being said, I am ALSO, a big proponent of self-help, of soul-searching, of looking within. Again, I repeat, it’s not always what you WANT to find, but NEED to find. 
I have a LOT of flaws, SO many things that hold me back from doing all the creative things I want to do.
My main ‘Crazy” is perfectionism.
Perfectionism is a BITCH! (Pardon my language, but it’s true!)
It’s causes me to question EVERYTHING I do.
I have the wonderful ability to be a very visual person.
I can ‘see’ the end result in my mind’s eye.
Whatever it is, I can take a minute, or a few. and visualize a complete picture, colours and everything.
It’s fantastic!
I LOVE that I can do that! 
               -Detour – squirrel – pretty bird – off on a tangent – 
                    I didn’t know that NOT everyone can do that – see things clearly in their mind’s eye, that is. I took it for granted because everyone in my family is creative and apparently CAN do it. So I grew up around others like me. When we said ‘Can you see it?’ The answer was ‘Yes, I can.” because they COULD ! As I got older, and tried to explain to others, it didn’t occur to me that not everyone is like me (I honestly don’t know why – I’m SPECTACULAR!! ) NOT everyone can see things so clearly. I don’t know how they survive!
                  – Now back to our regularly programmed schedule,…
The problem with being able to visualize everything, is that the end result when I’m finished creating whatever it is I’m creating may not turn out the way it looks in my head!
So,…I question even BEGINNING! (How stupid is THAT?)
NOTHINGdads-painting-1404x976 in life is PERFECT, NOTHING!
But, let’s take painting as an example for the moment, I told you I come from a creative family.
My father is a painter, among MANY other things.
His paintings are beautiful, they are realistic, you can see actual things, this painting of a sailboat is a perfect example.
I DON”T paint like that.
I’m sure I could, years of practice, and LOTS of ‘mistakes’ and I could do it. I don’t.
Want to know why?,….Perfectionism!
I compare my ‘crappy’ painting of a sailboat to my Dad’s.
He’s been painting for many years, he’s had time to perfect (and CONTINUE to perfect his art)
So how can I compare what I can do to what HE can do?
It’s ridiculous!
Still, I do it. CRAZY! 
Finding out that ‘Perfectionism’ was one of the ‘CRAZYs’ holding me back took a LONG time to find and come to terms with.
It wasn’t easy, it’s STILL not easy! I continue to fight myself and tell myself that I shouldn’t even bother starting (this website is perfect example) that project.
I see others out there in my world doing and creating and my negative voice SHOUTS out
-‘YOU can’t do THAT!’
‘YOU shouldn’t EVEN bother!’
‘YOU would just screw it up!’
ARRGGGHHH!! It makes me want to scream!
I KNOW I can, I just have to practice, I have to ACTUALLY START!
I literally have to have a long dialog with myself sometimes.
Going back and forth in my head on why I shouldn’t do something, and then how I KNOW I can. 
How do you go about finding and defining your ‘crazy’? What can you do to figure out what’s holding YOU back? 
We are going to go on a journey, we are going to use all sorts of ways, challenges, to work our way past all the reasons why we CAN’T be creative.
We are going to try things, regardless of the outcome, we are going to step OUTSIDE that box of whatever it is that holds us back and step INTO a new reality.
A reality where we ARE creative, where we CAN do whatever it is that we’ve been dreaming of building, painting, drawing, writing, whatEVER it is. 
Speaking of writing,… that is our first challenge. you-can-find
We are going to start a journal. We are going to carve out a few minutes each and every day to write. Julia Cameron, in ‘the Artist’s Way, calls them ‘Morning pages’.
Why? Well, because, you do them in the morning! 😉
We are going to write three pages, three (3) pages of stream of consciousness.
That is what ever comes to mind you write and you don’t stop until you’ve filled THREE pages. (do you get that it’s three pages, yet?, I know it took me a while!)
Some days you’ll have –
          2 May, 2005
               Today is yucky, my head hurts, I’m tired, I’m just dreading the day – don’t know why – just am. I ran over a dove/pigeon yesterday, I slowed down almost to a stop, thought he had moved, but nooooo,…Chelsae said he committed birdie suicide. I believe it, that bird didn’t want to move, he was playing chicken with me and lost! I thought I was going to be sick.
Other days you may have – 
          14 August 2005
               I’ve been out here for a bit, I was watching a thunderhead in the distance. The sky is a hazy blue, not overcast and gray and there’s a big puffy white cloud  low in the distance. I thought I saw flashes in it so I started watching it, and it had some really cool lighting flashing through it. Now it’s squished down and is mushroom shaped with a pinky-orange top. Very Pretty.
And other days,… – 
          You’ll have a series of – I don’t know what to write, I don’t know what to write, I don’t know what to write,…
You may start out strong, writing each and every day,….then start to dwindle.
I challenge you to keep at it.
Yes, you’ll have days where you forget.
Things will come up and you can’t write that morning, so write that night before you go to bed.
You may find that you don’t LIKE writing.
Keep at it!
Be forgiving with yourself, because this is FOR yourself. 
I have LOADS of journals.
If anyone ever tried to figure them out,…well they wouldn’t get far.
I start one, forget and start another, then forget THAT one and start ANOTHER!
Just remember to DATE each entry, no matter which journal you’re using the first or the third ;-)! 
A few tips I have for you
  • If you like colours use different coloured pens each day, I despise black pens, my journals are like rainbows, purple, pink, blue,…
  • Sometimes a blank journal is daunting, go on-line and find some of your favorite short quotes on art, travel, business, authors, whichever. On each page write a quote, somewhere, anywhere on the page. 
  • If you like stickers put a small one on each page.
  • Mark up or pretty up each page with something small. Then when you sit down to write you aren’t looking at a blank page trying to figure out where to start. (I love quotes, so I start by reading the little quote I’ve written the page and sometimes it’s a jump start, other times not.
  • If you are a morning person, make time before you do anything else to write. I’m NOT a morning person, my ‘morning’ pages were a struggle. I fought with myself to do this, something that I KNEW would benefit me. I realized it’s futile to wrestle with my circadian cycle. I am more of a night owl. So I try to remember to write at night. Same three pages, just later. (Notice I said ‘I TRY to remember’, I don’t always succeed. Be gentle with yourself. We are works in progress.)

Where’s your Art?

If you say you’re an artist, where’s the ‘proof’?

I have been asked a few times why I don’t have any artwork, why everything I have is what I just (literally, in some case) created?
Well, here it is, I’m going to tell you.
Forgive me if I break down occasionally, or if I stumble in my telling my story. It’s still a bit raw.
I was married, for 22 years. Yes,…that’s almost a quarter of a century!art-washes-away
A lifetime for some.
I married a good provider, some would say
A handsome man, a good man;
Just, I found, NOT the man for ME.
I don’t wish to speak ill of my ex,
I have two fantastic beautiful children from him,
I learn a LOT about myself from him.
I also realized how very incompatible we actually were, it just took me twenty-some YEARS to figure it out!
Why did it take that long?
I’ll tell you why,…
I didn’t KNOW me, mySELF! (I still  not always sure I do, I do know I have a better handle on it though!)
I THOUGHT I knew what I wanted out of life and,…
I THOUGHT that this man would go there with me.
I thought wrong.
The older we got the further apart we got.
I was a completely different person OUTSIDE of my home.
I didn’t realize it until a work friend came over and commented on how reserved I was at home.
(I was more ‘myself’ at work!).
 She didn’t understand until she met my ex.
He is a very reserved, ‘realist’ (negative, in my mind) quiet person.
I, on the other hand, am anything BUT any of those things!
How could two people SO COMPLETELY different end up together? (Kids, will do it)
We, as I grew to find out, had NOTHING in common.
I LOVE books, he hated to read.
I adore ALL kinds of music from all over the world, he only likes one genre.
I LOVE art and creative making of any kind, he, well,…did not.
He wanted to ‘live out his years’ in one place (‘his death house’, as he SO quaintly put it), I want to travel the world!
He wanted us to be ‘friends’, I did NOT!
He was, I’m sorry to say, not someone I would have picked as a friend and yet we were married!!
I decided one day, that I was not going to stay in a marriage that didn’t make me happy.
I would leave before things got to the point of my resenting him (I was VERY close to that point!)
It was a series of events, that created that trigger, that lightbulb to go off, that realization that things were NOT working.
Small things that built up, things I didn’t notice, until my family and friends (TRUE friends) started to tell me (once I started ASKING!).
I hadn’t been happy for a VERY long time, years even,
I hadn’t been honest with myself or my husband.
By the time I started to realize these things, we had gotten to the point where I couldn’t talk to him.
I would get so pissed off/upset/whatever and start to cry.
We NEVER had good communication skills.
No offense to him, but when you can’t talk to your husband without feeling belittled, you stop talking!
We didn’t talk about politics, religion, and on money (barely).
On the former two he had set view points and well,…let’s just leave it at that.
The latter,… THAT I’ll admit was on me, I sucked at anything to do with money.
I left, my daughter had gotten married and moved out; my son was 15 and didn’t want to leave his dad alone.
He said he knew that I’d be fine and would be OK, his dad wouldn’t.
Um,…okay. (Heart breaking inside!)
My son and I used to be close, very close.
That is one thing from all of this I do regret.
Leaving him with his father.
Certain people are good people they just aren’t good at showing their emotions and that is difficult to grow up with.
I am an emotional person (much as I a loathe to admit it!);
my ex, well, let’s just say his father wasn’t an emotionally forthcoming person and it runs in the family.
I left my son there, with someone who probably shut down and shutoff (I don’t know).
It killed me.
I moved to Georgia (the one place, ironically, I swore as a kid, I would never move, and now I LOVE!).
When I left, all I took were my books, my art supplies, and that was about it.
All my ‘work’, I left.
Now, understand, when I say ‘work’ I don’t mean only paintings, drawings.
By work, I mean, a wide variety of things.
I’ve taught myself how to sew; quilts, clothes, Halloween costumes, dolls, teddy bears, etc.
(On a side note, my first attempt at sewing clothes, I made my daughter (who was two) a dress. Lmao!! It was four sizes too big! It didn’t fit her until she was six!)
I taught myself how to fix anything around the house.
I taught myself to draw, to paint, to explore, to grow creatively.if-you-hear-a-voice
I used art and writing and reading and meditation to grow, to understand myself.
I used it as my therapist.
I wasn’t comfortable telling someone else things about myself I wasn’t even sure about,
so I used art and my other creative outlets to learn more about myself.
But,…when I left, I left that part of me.
I didn’t want ANY of it.
So all my work, all the pieces of myself from that time, I left.
Some may not understand, some may wonder why I didn’t take my work.
All work, EVERYTHING, anyone creates has a piece of them in it.
It has something of your soul in it.
That is a wonderful thing, because that means that when you want to release the crap, the SHIT, the bad, the negative, you CAN!
You can pour it all into the creation and then move on.
If you decide you want to keep that piece to remind you of where you DON’T want to return, you can.
If you want to release it and let it go and NEVER see it again, you can,…and I DID!
I understand that my story is rather on the boring side.
No major abuse, no physical trauma.
I know there are others out there that have had a VERY difficult time of things.
I believe art can help.
Art can help anyone in any situation.
Help to grow, to learn, to expand.

The BIGGEST Secret WHY You are Creatively STUCK!!

It’s of those days that makes you think, think all that shit that you DON’T want to think,…I REALLY want to do something creative, ANYTHING creative! I REALLY want to tell my partner what this truly means to me! I DO NOT want to feel like this anymore!

I understand, I was THERE! I want to help.
First, I have to tell you something. Change is not always easy. It can be hard, ugly and messy.
I realize I probably shouldn’t say this, I should just tell you what you want to hear, the feel good, fluffy stuff that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy.
That’s NOT me. I’m not going to lie to you, if you TRULY want change in your life I can help you with THAT but you have to REALLY want to CHANGE.
This feeling that you have inside,
  • that one that has been nagging at you
  • picking at the edges of your consciousness
  • that sensitivity that is putting you on edge
  • making you aware that something is missing.
Something in your world is off.wonderful-world
We are creative beings,we are born creating, learning, exploring, experimenting and playing.
As we grow up, rules, impressions, thoughts, and suggestions of others get piled onto us.
We have to get back to that child-like wonder, that inquisitiveness, those inquiring questions, that curiosity.
So how do we do that?
What can we do to remember what that was like?
Start with journaling~
~Journaling about EVERYTHING that is on your mind. Get used to writing down your feelings, TRUE emotions, no censorship, ALL the shit that is in your head,…let the negative out into the world, acknowledge that it is THERE.

Talk to your Inner Child~

THAT is the stuff that really needs to be talked to, to be loved, to be understood, acknowledged and you go meet it and hold it’s hand (that is your inner child)
When you write, start writing with your dominant hand.
Start just writing, stream-of-consciousness writing, when you can’t think of what to write, write THAT ‘I don’t know what to write,…’ until you get a spontaneous thought and continue on,…once you start getting to the sensitive stuff that is when you can start talking to your inner child.
Whenever your inner child answers, write with your non-dominant hand. This is VERY important! Ask in dominant,
This is VERY important!
Ask in dominant, answer in non-dominant. You will find that this allows for your hidden truths to be revealed.
You will find that this allows for your hidden truths to be revealed.
If you don’t talk to your inner child, you need to reintroduce yourself. Apologize for not being there for her/him, for not listening, not paying attention to him/her.
  • ‘Hello,..I want to tell you I realize I haven’t been listening to you.’
  • ‘I know NOW that you have been fighting to have me hear you.’
  • ‘I am here now,…and I WILL listen to you,..I WILL hear you.’
  • ‘You didn’t deserve this, I am SO sorry.’
  • ‘I am here for you now, whether I was here for you in the past, I will be here for you more fully.’
  • ‘I am starting right now.’
  • ‘What is your name?’
  • ‘How old are you?’
  • ‘I want to know more about you, what do you need from me at this time?’
  • ‘How can we be closer?’
  • ‘How can I better listen to you?’
  • ‘And,….(name) can you tell me how you are feeling today?’
Trust,…and let the writing flow,..write only what you hear or feel, NOT censor, do NOT correct, allow the grammatical errors and child-like wording, THAT is what you want to hear.
Be understanding, compassionate, tolerant and enjoy this relationship you are rebuilding.
Remember to keep your conversations and promises with your inner child true and honest.
Build the relationship you WANT to build, be gentle when you make mistakes, or you take a backwards step.
Learn from those moments, allow for BOTH of you to grow and be nurtured.

Explore your soul~

Ask,…Ask,…ASK,…You will never know what your soul has to tell you if you don’t ask! What do you ask?trust
  • When was the last time you tried something new?
  • What have you given up on?
  • Describe the greatest adventure of your life
  • When did you not speak up, when you know you really should have?
  • What makes you smile?
  • If you dropped everything to pursue your dreams, what would you be risking?
  • What terrifies you the most?
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Explore, experiment, play,…regain that child-like wonder of the world around you.
Start carrying a small Inspiration Notebook,…it can be lined or unlined (both is better, or grid) for you to collect inspirations.
Pictures/sketches of things you see, words of conversations or of lyrics from a song. Findings, leaves, squished bottles caps,…save all these,…you will be using them!
This little notebook will be your best friend for Creative Inspiration. (I also use Evernote, the app, on my phone for photos, and audio recordings)

Make a list of some of the creative outlets you would love to try,…whatever they may be,..

  • Painting
  • Sculpting
  • Drawing
  • Metalworking
~Collect the tools and materials you need for that particular creative outlet,…If you have your list and the one you want to do most you cannot do for whatever reason (metalworking can require some heavy duty equipment! LOL!) Then go down your list until you get to one that may be more feasible right NOW. Understand, that you will be experimenting, so if you want to play with acrylic paints and you don’t have all the tools, you will FIND, MAKE, INVENT your own!
~Go to the hardware store and create new uses for what you find there. Wander around and play with your imagination,..see how many different uses you can come up with for a particular piece of standard equipment. (collect some pieces you find that you like!)
~Go on what Julia Cameron in her book ‘The Artist’s Way’ calls an artists’ date. Go somewhere that inspires you, a museum, a book store (look at magazines or books you wouldn’t normally read), an art gallery, out for a walk in nature,…(all the while taking notes and picking things up that you find on the ground)
~Go and take your kids (or borrow some! Legally please, nieces/nephews, babysit your friends’ kids) and go to the park, play on the jungle gym,…swing on the swing,..climb some trees,…embrace the child-like enthusiasm of the kids around you! (again all the while collecting things,…)
~Go to a junkyard,..wander around and imagine what you could create with different parts and discarded findings. (once again,…you are filling your notebook and pockets!)
~Make a list of places you want to go check out that you think would inspire you, allow you to explore you creativity, invite you to play with your imagination.
~Don’t forget to daydream DAILY!  EVERY DAY! For at least 20 minutes or longer!
NOW! The FUN part!!!
I want you to take the creative outlet you picked and all your findings,,…and make something! Glue,..modge poge, paint,…draw,…rivet,..use hardware screws and nails,…then more paint,…then add some sand,…or modeling paste,…add texture, and colour,…and bits and pieces,…This,..will be YOU,..all your Creativity,… and your inspiration
Who am I?

Who am I?

So,…. Who am I?

I want to tell you a little about myself so you have a better idea of what you’re getting into!
I am very passionate about bringing out that hidden gem of Creativity that is within each and EVERY one of us (EVEN those who think they aren’t Creative, ARE!)
I’ve told you before, my creativity was buried for a long time.
I get it, I DO,… It’s easy to pretend that your creativity isn’t important, that it’s non-existent, that what you do now completes you.
Truthfully,…does it?
Are you being COMPLETELY honest with yourself?
I know for the longest time I sure as hell wasn’t!
I did everything BUT,…I went to school, I went to work, I took care of my family, raised my kids, I started businesses, I exercised, I let life drag me along.
As I went along, I became more and more despondent, more and more aware of the fact that I wasn’t happy, that I wasn’t living life the way I wanted.
I was hiding my creative side, sure I expressed it occasionally, but NOT fully!
It’s funny how sometimes in your life something happens and
An epiphany!
A light-bulb!
An A-ha moment!
A switch in your brain flicks and you suddenly see things for what the ARE!
No questions, no talking yourself out of it, no going back!
That happened to me back in May of 2009.
I was married (had been for 25 years), two kids (one married and at home – 15 years old), and a grandchild.
I was playing with my grandson and my husband was in the living-room watching t.v.
He got upset because we were making TOO much noise!
I realized at THAT moment that I wasn’t going to remain there!
THAT was one of my light-bulb moments!
Two months later, I was divorced and moving to a new state.
I was nervous and excited, not sure of what I was doing or where exactly I was going.
But that didn’t matter, I was finding MYSELF again!
Another light-bulb moment was the first time I got onto Periscope to practice for Global Meditation Scopes with Anita Wing Lee.
I had just started my blog on life and travel, somehow in my trying to figure out how to do this blogging thing, I found Anita.
My way of relaxing is to create, so I started painting to practice for the scope I was going to do for GMS.
When I first got on Periscope I was scared shitless! I was shaking so bad and almost dropped my phone, more than once!
Still,… I continued. I realized, once I kept at it, that I loved video! I still don’t do selfies, but being in front of the camera felt natural, comfortable. I could get my point across a whole lot better than trying to type what I wanted to say!
There goes ANOTHER light switch!
I can use video to reconnect people with THEIR creativity!
I can help others who feel they aren’t creative, or who like me forgot they are creative!
I can accomplish this through videos and programs!
I got THIS!!
So,….I have been creating,…videos, programs, stepping stones on the path of life, branches of that Creative tree.
I have been watching videos on how to be more professional, how to better reach your audience, connect with your tribe, etc. etc. etc
They are giving me suggestions of what to wear, what kind of background/backdrop I need, all kinds of great information;
EXCEPT,…these things aren’t ME!
Don’t get me wrong
I LOVE to dress up,
I LOVE pretty things,
I love all the extravagant accouterments.
But,…I’m most comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt, or a simple dress.
So,…I’ve decided that I’m going to do things differently,
I am going to be ME!
I have a question for you – Are you going to be impressed or intimidated by the fancy-schmancy background scenery?
Let’s be honest here, if we are going to work together and you are going to go through all our programs, are you going to be paying attention what I can help you with, or are you going to focus on my fancy duds?
Yes, some days you will get the fancy (I told you I like to get dressed up, and sometimes for no reason other than I want to!), most days you will get the comfortable ME.
Either way, you will always get the best from me!
So,….(apparently my fav way to start a thought!) this is what I’m doing! I am reaching out, I am connecting, I am changing lives! Guess what?!? Believe it or not,…YOU can do the same thing! YOU can decide to allow for that light-bulb, that epiphany, that switch to flick,….I DO believe YOU have to allow it. YOU just have to be OPEN to the CHANGE!
Guess what?!?
Believe it or not,…YOU can do the same thing!
YOU can decide to allow for that light-bulb, that epiphany, that switch to flick,….I DO believe
YOU have to allow it.
YOU just have to be OPEN to the CHANGE!
Let me know what your thoughts are on all this!
Have you had any ‘light-bulb’ moments? Tell me about them in the comments below .
What are your thoughts on the videos? Let me know in the comments below .
Have you decided to make a change in your life? Start one of the programs.
Just remember to start living a Creative Adventurous life, you have to START RIGHT NOW!