Break out of the same self-sabotage, the same defense mechanism that holds you back. Realize what you do to sabotage your plans, dreams, & goals. Change your life.

OMG! Let me tell you what I just realized!
My self-sabotage, my fucking defense mechanism, my getting in my own damn way is ‘resting’!
I JUST realized that when I get scared or nervous, I crawl up in a ball and SLEEP! Now when I say scared or nervous, I don’t mean something REAL like a bear or someone trying to hurt me,… OH NO!,… I mean of success, of REAL work that would get me to my goals!

Now what I don’t get, what I really don’t understand is that I can work HARD!!

I can do manual labor and help Roy with a sign installation. Or work HARD at yard work, or fixing something on the house.
I can work HARD at putting together my website, research what I need to be able to know needs to be done to get my business going.
I CAN and DO work HARD at all those things.
BUT,…and this is a BIG BUT,…when it comes to FINISHING,… COMPLETING,…I shut down! As in,…all of a sudden (regardless of
As in,…all of a sudden (regardless of amount of previous sleep) my mind says ‘You’re tired,…go to sleep!’
WTF!!! I KNOW what I want to get accomplished, I know what I NEED to FINISH! Something inside me says ‘NOPE,…FUCK THAT,…you don’t want that!’
The upside of this recent discovery is that NOW I know!
The downside is,…WHAT THE FUCK have I been doing all these years!! AND WHY DO I DO THIS!!!
AND more importantly HOW do I change it!?!
Change it? Reframe it? Well,…I know,…I ACTUALLY KNOW what I am to do!! How To STOP allowing my ‘defense mechanism’ to shut me down! I
Well,…I know,…I ACTUALLY KNOW what I am to do!! How To STOP allowing my ‘defense mechanism’ to shut me down! I
How To STOP allowing my ‘defense mechanism’ to shut me down! I
I’ve known ALL along!!

It’s called ACTION!!


Be Adventurous in life and in love

It is actually to MOVE!
It is just to GET UP out of my bed (my hiding place)!
It could be – go for a walk (clear my mind).
Or maybe – do some stretching, some yoga, some Tai Chi.
I even – get to my computer and write a post.
Or possibly – to get onto Periscope or FB Live and talk to you.
It could be ANYTHING,…as long as it is SOMETHING!!!
SOMETHING that gets me MOVING!!
We all have different ‘defense mechanisms’, things we do to ‘protect’ ourselves. Our logical minds sometimes think that what we are doing is going to cause us pain and so it thinks that it is ‘saving’ us from that pain. That stress, that fear of failure, that fear of what others think, that fear of letting others down,…the list is endless!
This ‘defense mechanism’ could be beneficial, BUT NOT when it stops us from DOING. It STOPS us from moving towards our goals, our BIG visions of our dreams!
It STOPS us from moving towards our goals, our BIG visions of our dreams!
We KNOW that the work, the ‘stress’, the ‘fears’, the MOVEMENT are NOT pain-free, yet they are a part of our going forward!
C’mon, let’s be honest, shit and negative voices in our heads seem to take over!
All the grand schemes, goals, and plans are amazing and we are all gun-ho and all in,….then,…the shit creeps in.
It takes over, STOPS us in our tracks, oh, “defense mechanisms’ show up!
Then we get frustrated, annoyed with ourselves, mad, pissed off at ourselves,
FUCK! WHY?!? Why did I do THAT!?! WHY did I stop! FUCK!! FUCK FUCK!!!
Oh yeah,…all of this is SO helpful, SO beneficial,…SO works to get us past that crap,…NOT!!!
All this makes things WORSE!
OK,… STOP!!!
Get over yourself!!
Write that shit out!
Get it out,..and then MOVE!!
Staying in this space, in this place of self-loathing, does NOT help you. REALLY,…it doesn’t!
You can get passed this, I swear,…YOU can! BUT,…let me tell you something, if you don’t realize that you can and that YOU have the POWER, you are WRONG!
You have to be COMMITTED to YOU!
The A-ha moment when you suddenly realize that it’s possible,…EVERYTHING is possible is FUCKING AMAZING!!
It is a kick in the head!
‘Are you shitting me?!? This was in ME?!’ ‘I had this POWER the WHOLE time!?!’ O-M-G!!
Why haven’t I been listening to THIS voice,…THIS VOICE IS ME!!’ (The ME I’ve wanted to be,…)


I get up in the morning looking for an adventure.

You wanna know something cool?
Something that has CHANGED my WHOLE outlook?
I have BORROWED the voices I need to get me where I need to be until MY voices were LOUD and drowned out the SHIT voices!!
I STILL have days when the SHIT voices are there and are trying to take over.
Not gonna lie to you.
BUT NOW,…those borrowed voices are available and I can use them to tell the SHIT voices to SHUT THE FUCK UP!! HOT DAMN!! SO AMAZING!!
Hey,…T,…where did you GET these ‘borrowed’ voices?!?
Oh,..yeah,…you might want to know THAT,…may be helpful!
MY borrowed voices are the voices of people I admire, that I respect, that have made an impact on my life (a POSITIVE impact).
Who are they? Who are these people who I listen to,…
Roy (Baby) Mertz
Kat Loterzo
Kai Ashley
Leonie Dawson
Janelle Romero
and others
These people remind me that I have the POWER in me! That I have the strength and will power!
If you need to ‘borrow’ a voice,…you can ‘borrow’ mine, I will work with you and help you.
We can work together and get you past all the SHIT.
Contact me, email me (
FB message me (ACoupleAdventurers) we can set up a Zoom call and see if we can work together.
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