It’s of those days that makes you think, think all that shit that you DON’T want to think,…I REALLY want to do something creative, ANYTHING creative! I REALLY want to tell my partner what this truly means to me! I DO NOT want to feel like this anymore!
I understand, I was THERE! I want to help.
First, I have to tell you something. Change is not always easy. It can be hard, ugly and messy.
I realize I probably shouldn’t say this, I should just tell you what you want to hear, the feel good, fluffy stuff that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy.
That’s NOT me. I’m not going to lie to you, if you TRULY want change in your life I can help you with THAT but you have to REALLY want to CHANGE.
This feeling that you have inside,
- that one that has been nagging at you
- picking at the edges of your consciousness
- that sensitivity that is putting you on edge
- making you aware that something is missing.
Something in your world is off.
We are creative beings,we are born creating, learning, exploring, experimenting and playing.
As we grow up, rules, impressions, thoughts, and suggestions of others get piled onto us.
We have to get back to that child-like wonder, that inquisitiveness, those inquiring questions, that curiosity.
So how do we do that?
What can we do to remember what that was like?
Start with journaling~
~Journaling about EVERYTHING that is on your mind. Get used to writing down your feelings, TRUE emotions, no censorship, ALL the shit that is in your head,…let the negative out into the world, acknowledge that it is THERE.
Talk to your Inner Child~
THAT is the stuff that really needs to be talked to, to be loved, to be understood, acknowledged and you go meet it and hold it’s hand (that is your inner child)
When you write, start writing with your dominant hand.
Start just writing, stream-of-consciousness writing, when you can’t think of what to write, write THAT ‘I don’t know what to write,…’ until you get a spontaneous thought and continue on,…once you start getting to the sensitive stuff that is when you can start talking to your inner child.
Whenever your inner child answers, write with your non-dominant hand. This is VERY important! Ask in dominant,
This is VERY important!
Ask in dominant, answer in non-dominant. You will find that this allows for your hidden truths to be revealed.
You will find that this allows for your hidden truths to be revealed.
If you don’t talk to your inner child, you need to reintroduce yourself. Apologize for not being there for her/him, for not listening, not paying attention to him/her.
- ‘Hello,..I want to tell you I realize I haven’t been listening to you.’
- ‘I know NOW that you have been fighting to have me hear you.’
- ‘I am here now,…and I WILL listen to you,..I WILL hear you.’
- ‘You didn’t deserve this, I am SO sorry.’
- ‘I am here for you now, whether I was here for you in the past, I will be here for you more fully.’
- ‘I am starting right now.’
- ‘What is your name?’
- ‘How old are you?’
- ‘I want to know more about you, what do you need from me at this time?’
- ‘How can we be closer?’
- ‘How can I better listen to you?’
- ‘And,….(name) can you tell me how you are feeling today?’
Trust,…and let the writing flow,..write only what you hear or feel,..do NOT censor, do NOT correct, allow the grammatical errors and child-like wording, THAT is what you want to hear.
Be understanding, compassionate, tolerant and enjoy this relationship you are rebuilding.
Remember to keep your conversations and promises with your inner child true and honest.
Build the relationship you WANT to build, be gentle when you make mistakes, or you take a backwards step.
Learn from those moments, allow for BOTH of you to grow and be nurtured.
Explore your soul~
Ask,…Ask,…ASK,…You will never know what your soul has to tell you if you don’t ask! What do you ask?
- When was the last time you tried something new?
- What have you given up on?
- Describe the greatest adventure of your life
- When did you not speak up, when you know you really should have?
- What makes you smile?
- If you dropped everything to pursue your dreams, what would you be risking?
- What terrifies you the most?
Next, Start Playing
Explore, experiment, play,…regain that child-like wonder of the world around you.
Start carrying a small Inspiration Notebook,…it can be lined or unlined (both is better, or grid) for you to collect inspirations.
Pictures/sketches of things you see, words of conversations or of lyrics from a song. Findings, leaves, squished bottles caps,…save all these,…you will be using them!
This little notebook will be your best friend for Creative Inspiration. (I also use Evernote, the app, on my phone for photos, and audio recordings)
Make a list of some of the creative outlets you would love to try,…whatever they may be,..
~Collect the tools and materials you need for that particular creative outlet,…If you have your list and the one you want to do most you cannot do for whatever reason (metalworking can require some heavy duty equipment! LOL!) Then go down your list until you get to one that may be more feasible right NOW. Understand, that you will be experimenting, so if you want to play with acrylic paints and you don’t have all the tools, you will FIND, MAKE, INVENT your own!
~Go to the hardware store and create new uses for what you find there. Wander around and play with your imagination,..see how many different uses you can come up with for a particular piece of standard equipment. (collect some pieces you find that you like!)
~Go on what Julia Cameron in her book ‘The Artist’s Way’ calls an artists’ date. Go somewhere that inspires you, a museum, a book store (look at magazines or books you wouldn’t normally read), an art gallery, out for a walk in nature,…(all the while taking notes and picking things up that you find on the ground)
~Go and take your kids (or borrow some! Legally please, nieces/nephews, babysit your friends’ kids) and go to the park, play on the jungle gym,…swing on the swing,..climb some trees,…embrace the child-like enthusiasm of the kids around you! (again all the while collecting things,…)
~Go to a junkyard,..wander around and imagine what you could create with different parts and discarded findings. (once again,…you are filling your notebook and pockets!)
~Make a list of places you want to go check out that you think would inspire you, allow you to explore you creativity, invite you to play with your imagination.
~Don’t forget to daydream DAILY! EVERY DAY! For at least 20 minutes or longer!
NOW! The FUN part!!!
I want you to take the creative outlet you picked and all your findings,,…and make something! Glue,..modge poge, paint,…draw,…rivet,..use hardware screws and nails,…then more paint,…then add some sand,…or modeling paste,…add texture, and colour,…and bits and pieces,…This,..will be YOU,..all your Creativity,… and your inspiration